Three Negative Voices That Block Success

Three Negative Voices That Block Success

Success is something that everyone wants, but many struggle to achieve that. More often than not, it is a part within us that actually stops us from being successful. Unfortunately, very few are aware of this, and thus, they blame external circumstances. Often there are three such characteristics/personality traits (or voices, as we like to call) that might be holding you back. 

Type: Mr. Fearful
Favorite Dialogue: "This is how it can go wrong"

This is the most dangerous part of you, and if you have this trait, success will keep running away from you. This personality within us is a sucker for what all can go wrong. It feeds on fear and causes us to focus all our energy on why things will not work and how everything in the world is working to ensure that we fail. As we start listening to this part of us, we fail to focus on doing things that can lead us to success. We become fearful and avoid doing things lest we may fail at them.

Clearly, listening to Mr. Fearful takes our focus away from the task at hand. Thus, we end up doing it badly or even worse, we are not able to do it at all.

Type: Mr. Complainer
Favorite Dialogue: "Oh, I am in this situation. What Can I do, poor me!"

This is one voice we all have had at some point or the other. Often, we find people describing at length how bad their situation is. How everything around harms them, how people are bad to them, how the current job is not paying well, how the spouse doesn't listen to them, how they don't have enough money, blah blah. This entire rant is the voice of Mr. Complainer within people who believe in just pointing out how bad the situation is and how nothing is working. This personality stops us from looking at improving our situation. The more we listen to the Mr. Complainer within us, the more we feel trapped in our current situation and don't do anything to change it. Certainly, success will stay at bay if we heed to the Mr. Complainer in us.

The best example of this is seen at workplace, where there are people who are always complaining about the workload, the long hours, the bad pay, bad profile, etc. But they never pause and review the situation and look at possible solutions like sharing the workload, talking to the boss, changing the job, working independently, etc.

Type: Mr. Fault Finder
Favorite Dialogue: "Oh, you did this wrong. The book is kept on the wrong shelf. She brought the wrong milk."

Mother-in-laws are accused of displaying this personality quite often, but there is a Mr. Fault Finder in all of us. This trait focuses all the energy on pointing out mistakes or what has been done the wrong way. Mr. Fault Finder is like the cousin of Mr. Fearful who focuses on the wrongs in the present, while Mr. Fearful focuses on the wrongs of the future.

If we listen to this Mr. Fault Finder within us, we will be spending all our time on listing what all mistakes people around us have made and there will be no time and energy left to do the things we need to do.

The solution

Listening to one or more of these three voices will just create negativity around us, stopping and blocking our success and achievements. Now the question is what do we do if we have one or more of these voices getting louder in us? The best thing one can do is to not heed to Mr. Fearful, Mr. Fault Finder and Mr. Complainer. Even better, make them meet Mr. Doer within you, who focuses on doing things without wondering too much about what can go wrong, what mistakes have been made or how bad is the current situation. Only when we focus our attention, energy, time and efforts on doing things that there will be a possibility of succeeding or not at them. So, focus and listen to Mr. Doer in you and let the results follow. Soon success will come chasing you.